Everything You Need to Know About Infidelity & Betrayal Trauma Therapy in New York
Whether you’re the partner who has been betrayed, the one who broke trust, or a couple trying to figure out what’s next, therapy can help. Infidelity and betrayal trauma therapy offers a safe space for all parties to process what happened, explore what healing might look like, and decide—individually or together—how to move forward. Here’s everything you need to know.
Whether you’ve just discovered an affair or are still trying to make sense of a betrayal that happened months—or even years—ago, navigating the aftermath can feel completely overwhelming. You may be dealing with grief, rage, confusion, fear, or a tangled mix of all the above. Here’s everything you need to know.
Should Both Partners Attend Therapy Together, or Is Individual Therapy Better?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Some couples benefit from attending therapy together, while others may need to start with individual sessions—especially when emotions are still raw. In many cases, doing both can be helpful. We’ll figure out the right starting point based on your situation and goals.
Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity or Betrayal?
Yes—but it takes work. Many couples are able to rebuild after betrayal and come out stronger on the other side. But it’s not about returning to what you had—it’s about building something new with honesty, vulnerability, and accountability at the center. Therapy helps guide that process.
What Should I Expect During Infidelity and Betrayal Therapy?
Therapy often involves:
- Understanding what led to the betrayal (without excusing it)
- Creating space for honest, structured conversations
- Processing the emotional aftermath—including anger, grief, and fear
- Working toward clarity: Do we rebuild together, or separately?
- Learning tools for communication, boundary-setting, and trust repair
Whether you’re the betrayed partner or the one who betrayed, therapy is a space to process, learn, and grow.
How Long Does It Take to Heal from Infidelity or Betrayal?
Healing takes time—and it’s rarely linear. Some couples begin to rebuild within a few months, while others may need a year or more. Your willingness to be honest, vulnerable, and consistent (with support) will influence the timeline more than any specific number of sessions.
How Do I Know If I’m Ready for Therapy After Experiencing Infidelity?
You don’t have to have all the answers to begin. If you’re:
- Constantly ruminating on what happened
- Feeling emotionally stuck, angry, or numb
- Unsure about staying or leaving
- Longing for clarity, relief, or even just space to be heard
…then you’re ready. Therapy can meet you where you are, even if that place feels messy.
Is Therapy Helpful Even If We’re Unsure About Staying Together?
Absolutely. Therapy isn’t just about “saving” the relationship—it’s about exploring what healing could look like, whether that’s rebuilding trust or consciously deciding to move on. Both paths are valid, and therapy provides support either way.
What If Only One Partner Is Willing to Attend Therapy?
That’s okay. While it’s ideal to have both partners involved, individual therapy can still be incredibly impactful. You can work on setting boundaries, processing emotions, and understanding your needs—regardless of whether your partner participates.
Can Therapy Help with the Anger and Resentment I Feel?
Yes. Anger is a completely valid—and common—response to betrayal. In therapy, we don’t suppress it; we make space for it, explore what it’s trying to tell you, and learn how to express it in ways that support your healing (rather than stall it).
How Do We Rebuild Trust After Infidelity?
Rebuilding trust is possible, but it’s not instant. It involves:
- Transparency – Being radically honest and accountable
- Consistency – Showing up emotionally, not just saying the right things
- Repair – Acknowledging the hurt and taking ownership
- Boundaries – Creating safety moving forward
Therapy supports both partners in this process while keeping the focus on healing—not just “getting over it.”
What If the Betrayal Involved More Than Just Infidelity?
Betrayal isn’t always romantic. Financial secrets, emotional affairs, hidden addictions, or broken agreements can all leave lasting wounds. Therapy can help you name what happened, understand its impact, and decide what you want moving forward.
How Can Therapy Help Me If I’m the One Who Betrayed My Partner?
If you’re the one who broke trust, therapy can help you:
- Understand the “why” behind your actions
- Take full ownership (without defensiveness)
- Learn how to listen to your partner’s pain without shutting down
- Begin to repair the harm in a genuine, non-performative way
It’s not about punishment—it’s about transformation.
Can Therapy Help with the Fear of Future Betrayal?
Yes. Fear of it happening again is incredibly common. Therapy helps you:
- Rebuild internal trust (in yourself and your instincts)
- Communicate openly about needs and fears
- Set and uphold boundaries that create emotional safety
Whether you stay in the relationship or not, therapy helps you move forward from a place of clarity instead of fear.
What Qualifications and Experience Do You Have with Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma?
I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) based in New York, with extensive experience in relationship trauma, trust repair, and emotional healing. I work with both individuals and couples, offering a non-judgmental space where all feelings are valid and all questions are welcome.
How Much Does Infidelity Therapy Cost, and Is It Covered by Insurance?
Costs vary depending on session format and frequency. Some insurance plans may cover therapy, though it’s best to check with your provider. I’m happy to share rates and explore payment options with you directly.
Do You Offer Virtual Therapy for Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma in New York?
Yes, I offer virtual sessions for individuals and couples across New York. Online therapy provides the same support, structure, and safety—just with the flexibility to meet from wherever you are.
Final Thoughts
Infidelity therapy isn’t about forcing a specific outcome—it’s about helping you make sense of what’s happened, understand what you need, and move toward healing (whatever that looks like for you). If you’re feeling hurt, stuck, confused, or just trying to hold it together, you don’t have to go through it alone. Reach out today to get the support you deserve.
